Thoughts by Bryan Washington, 2020, 8 hours 20 minutes

Narrated by the author and Akie Kotabe

Challenge: TOB Short List
Genre: Contemporary Lit, Queer Lit
Type/Source: Audiobook, Audible
 Why I read this now:  I wanted a shorter one from the possibles. This sounded like it might be suitable in audio form? 


WHAT’s it ABOUT:  The love affair? living arrangement? of Ben and Mike. They meet, they have sex, they curse, they move in together, Mike flies off to Japan to “be there” for his dad’s last days as he dies of cancer just as his mom flies from Japan to stay with him. Thus, Ben and Mike’s mom are now cohabitating and cooking together. Ben and Mike wonder about their relationship with few attempts to talk it out.  Oh yea, Ben’s father is an alcoholic and Ben is wrestling with that relationship, too.

THOUGHTS:  Aside from the delicate topic of dying parents and the care required to work through the grief, especially when the relationship is strained, I thought this was rather boring. Maybe all the sex and cursing. Which I’m not sure I would have been hyper-aware of the cursing if Ruthiella hadn’t called it out!  LOL.  See? I shouldn’t be laughing at these guys worrying about their fathers.

RATING:  Three slices of pie.   Salted Caramel Pecan Chocolate Pie, perhaps?!  Would have been a 2 slicer if I hadn’t encountered the caramel and pecan pie…

When Mary brought a pie to the table, double-layered in caramel and pecans, she said her daughter and I should share it,…”


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6 thoughts on “Memorial

  1. Ooh, okay, sounds like I will give this a miss. I was kind of on the fence about reading it — I’ve enjoyed some of the author’s journalism in the past, but the synopsis didn’t really sound like my thing, plus I’m not really in a “fathers are ill” place at the moment — but this review tips me into nah territory, I think.

    1. The author wasn’t the strongest of narrators. The guy who voiced Mike was better. It DOES influence, though I have listened to horrid narrators and loved the story. #shrug

  2. I’d like to think you would have noticed all the foul language without my nudge! Because it was in virtually every sentence. Even Mike’s mom routinely used the f-word.

    Also, there was some indication that Mike’s dad also was an alcoholic or had some sort of addict (why otherwise would they come home and find the TV gone?) but then in Japan, he’s drinking a beer and seemingly fine?

    Bottom line, the book wasn’t for me. I never felt/believed the connection between Mike and Ben but I’m glad the book resonated with so many other readers. 😀

    1. Maybe I would have noticed but I know I noticed it MORE with your warning in my head! no worries – it made me laugh. I do have the uncanny ability to NOT notice stuff, sometimes. Like when others cite lack of punctuation? I often have to go check… huh, how did I not notice that?!

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