Weekly Geeks 2010-07: Commenting

As a proud participant in the Weekly Geeks phenomenon, I hereby point you to the official blog/site for this week’s topic.   Weekly Geeks 2010-07:  Commenting.

Care’s Commenting Policy

I, Care of Care’s Online Book Club, hereby encourage comments to my posts and agree to being enthusiastically appreciative when I read said comments.   I promise to attempt to respond here  – usually in a “Reply” right after the comment, and via email (when I especially want the commenter to know of my response).    (I do wonder if anyone ever comes back and reads my replies – besides Valerie and Jeanne.  *wink*)

I also hope to offer a quid-pro-quo visit at your blog if you comment here and if the energy connection works out, may it be the beginning of a beautiful online bookish relationship.      Alas, I regret that I cannot visit everyone every day.   (I so miss the early days of discovery…)

I believe blogging IS some kind of energy connection and some bloggers light up different frequencies encouraging more connectedness.      It’s just what it is.      I do not subscribe to any thought-camp that the book blog world is clique-y  yet I do acknowledge some groupiness which hopefully isn’t a word as emotionally charged (negatively, perhaps) but do think that we get ourselves into circles that overlap and collide depending on mood or activity or energy connection and now I’m just getting wierd so I’ll shut up.    But really, it’s true – there are some bloggers I get SO THRILLED when they comment here and there are some blogs I read a LOT but never comment.   IT JUST IS WHAT IT IS.

I try to maintain a positive attitude here and love to encourage my own sunny disposition.  I will delete any spammy comments, any RUDE comments, and any negative irrelevant comments.    This happening is extremely rare.   I really think the only negative comment I’ve every received was from someone aghast and appalled that I didn’t go all gaga for Twilight and now that I read it again, it’s not even that bad…

My WordPress platform is WONDERFUL in that it traps any suspicious spam comments so it is easy-peasy to just ignore or delete or whatever.     I do sometimes, again – rarely, have to rescue a legitimate comment from the spam-catcher.    A few comments go to a pending status so they are easily addressed and sent to appropriate comment-happy status or the rubbish bin.

I rarely get author comments.   Dead authors tend not to visit my blog which is one good reason to read classics.   Or maybe I read authors that are too-popular and don’t have time to bother with bloggers?    Or I don’t say much comment worthy.   (*cough, cough*)   I was very excited to have the translator of Steig Larsson’s debut The Girl With the DragonTattoo visit – very cool!

When I first started blogging (it was a ‘life’ blog), I stayed exclusively in the WP world which is awesome and easy to develop a circle of friends.   WordPress has a button to click where you can see all the comments you’ve left at other WP blogs and quickly jump back into a conversation.     But once I started blogging about books, I found out that other platforms existed;  that blogger/spot was dominant (and SO HARD to comment on posts due to word verification and all the boxes and extra submits required to fillout) and that there was no way except to remember to go back and check if the blogger responded to your comment.      [And now everyone seems to be self-hosting (neither here nor there) – but I do like the ability to click and get email response track.    But I rarely do it because I don’t want my email clogged  up.]

Did I get off-track?  I was trying to say that when I discovered Weekly Geeks, I was SO VERY EXCITED!!!    It was my first ‘group’ thing to participate in and when Dewey came by and left me a comment – a thoughtful, helpful, meaningful comment – I was just so happy with my choice to blog about books and be a part of the community.   Thank you Dewey for Weekly Geeks!

But the POINT OF ALL THIS IS and I know Dewey would agree with me…     We (it’s not just * I *, is it?) must do a good better job at visiting the other participants and creating that dialogue.    Please don’t just write your Geek post and sit and wait for others to visit.  GET OUT THERE and say something/anything and have fun with it.  I need to be better at this…   I do appreciate Weekly Geeks for getting me to visit new and different and not the same ol’ (wonderful) blogs and bemoan the high count of unread posts in Google-Reader.    Thank you for keeping it fresh and not routine.

I know, I know – I am now out visiting all of you and I’m hoping I will be able to let you know I was ‘there’; coming up with something meaningful and thoughtful to comment.☺

Wow – this post ended up a lot longer than I expected…    I was thinking that it might be accurate to say that I sometimes think there are three kinds of comments; so to make it easier for y’all, here’s your multiple choice offering:     If you are here and want to acknowledge that you’re here – a show of support, if you will, then type “A”.     If you have something to say and will just burst if you don’t share your thoughts, then type “B” – and your must-express thought, of course!    And, if you disagree (really, I don’t often find the blogging world to be all that disagreeable, do you?), type “C” and tell me where I’m wrong-thinking.

Recap:    A – I’m here!   You Rock!   Tiddlypom!!

B – I got something to say:   ________

C – Yea, but…



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74 thoughts on “Weekly Geeks 2010-07: Commenting

  1. Good Post! This is my first weekly geeks and it was last minute for me I need to go visit more blogs next week and comment. I’m going to have to look into the Recent Comment Widget.

    1. Welcome Heidi! Welcome to Geeks. I love the showing the recent comments because I’m such a visual person, perhaps but I always call up my blog and look to see if it was only me who commented last or someone new. (and with WP widgets, it’s just a click to include – no coding at all, easy…)

  2. Love it, as always! You bring refreshing insight and common sense to an emotion-tinged issue and always provide a good laugh or two (or three). You said it all much better than I did!

  3. Great post. I love to “meet” the readers of my own blog, and I too miss the early days of blogging, when I had more time to read other people’s blogs (daily, ha!) and discover new bloggers. I’m someone who refuses to do google reader, and visit blogs off my blogroll. So old school, right? Actually, I think you found me from Goodreads and stopped by my own blog a few weeks ago and I’m just now visiting your blog. Shame on me!

    I also personally hate Blogger blogs and the amout of effort it takes to leave comments. WordPress is so easy, especially when people like you don’t have restrictions in order to leave that first comment.

    I always wonder who reads my blogs, and I love it when a lurker comes forward to share something. But, after reading your post, and taking a look at your blog roll, I realize I am barely “friends” with any other book bloggers, and I have no idea why. Thanks for reminding me to get out there more to make friends with people who love books, just like I do.

    1. I still use my blogroll, too, but have my Reader set up for some as well. I admit, it’s tough to keep the ‘roll accurate!
      Do check out mine – I group it by platform, for the most part precisely for quick-commenting or knowing how much work it will be! Silly, I suppose, but I do like my other fellow WP-ers for that reason.
      You will HAVE to check out BBAW and of course, the read-a-thon if you want to totally immerse in book-blog-world!! It’s a terrific “place”, imo.

  4. Great post! I used to manage many more comments in the old days of blogging (ah! nostalgia). But I do always try and say something cheerful when I turn up visiting blogging friends. And I still adore getting comments on my blog and wish I attracted more of them. Still, I’m grateful for what I get. It is the special part of blogging and what makes us all a real community.

    1. But you have such amazing THOUGHTFUL comments and brilliant commenters visiting you. Why need you of more? You’ve got quality – pshaw on quantity. 🙂

  5. Some posts seem to have more of a “comment hook” than others. Sometimes I have nothing to say & I don’t want to just go “lol” or “me too!” It doesn’t seem very satisfying or thoughtful even though it swells comment numbers.

    I have to laugh…it didn’t occur to me until I’d been blogging for almost two years that I could reply to the comments people made on my blog and get a dialogue going. Guess all those years in the wilderness alone (in 2004, there weren’t many of us around) didn’t do much for my blog etiquette.

    You already do a great job…here’s a belated but heartfelt virtual pat on the back.

    1. yes, I used to bemoan why I didn’t have comments (way back in the beginning days) and I always had one friend keep telling me to end my posts with a question if I want a response. I still forget.
      I hate that my own comments distort the comment count, but really? I finally decided I didn’t care. I rarely if ever look at my stats anymore.
      Thank you so much for the pat on the back – you’re TOO cool.

  6. Smiling now after reading this post. I actually stopped by to thank you for stopping by and commenting on my review of Impossible. I do try to network all the time and respond to comments I receive in the hopes I will continue to get readers and comments. Have a great week. Thanks again.

    1. Smiles are awesome! Thank you very much.
      I hope you enjoy True Diary by Alexie. I’m reviewed it… Do you know about Fyrefly’s Absolutely Fabulous Book Blog Search? I have a link to it on my Books I’ve Read page. Do check it out.

  7. Ok, this is A, B, and C I guess hahah.

    I actually had started to write a post about comments the other day and hadn’t finished/posted it yet, so funny that everyone’s talking about commenting today!

    I have some opinions about this. I do feel that some bloggers are sometimes “clique-y”. But then I know there are some blogger friends that I am more “friends” with than others for various reasons whether it’s because we “click” or “know” each other from other places. So the ones I consider clique-y could just be that they are more friendly with each other for whatever reason, but it just comes off that way sometimes.

    I get irritated when people don’t reply to comments on their own blog. I sort of feel that comments can be more conversational, not just the blogger posts something and then expect everyone will leave comments and they don’t have to participate anymore in conversation. I totally get no replying every time, but there are some bloggers I have left tons of comments for and not once even had it acknowledged so they went down a notch in my eyes, haha. I wonder, though, when people reply on my blog if they check mark the box for replies because if they don’t then I guess they won’t know if I reply.

    I don’t expect that every blogger I follow should follow me or even necessarily like my blog. However, many times I do get annoyed or frustrated when bloggers seem to be all about their blog and never anyone else’s, if that makes sense.

    I guess that’s it for now, haha. I may just be in an annoyed mood today though, haha.

    1. Thanks for sharing! You DO have some thoughts on this, don’t you. Which is great.
      Sometimes the whole ‘clique’ word gets so fraught with negativity and I have to take a step back, inhale a deep breath of fresh air of common sense and realize – or CHOOSE to believe – that no one is really attempting to exclude anyone. If that is so, who needs ’em. The book blogging world is too big to have any organized exclusivity – circles of friends HAPPEN. perception of circles? sure… and once a few bloggers share any kind of ‘inside joke’, it often feels like others would thus feel ‘OUTSIDE’ of it, but in the grand scheme of things? I choose to celebrate the cool people who have amazing blogs that do share with me their thoughts on books. And happily, I continue to blog and not fret about anything else. I don’t have time to know everything that is going on and if the “cool” bloggers are doing something thing I don’t know about, good for them. THAT is my issue when the clique conversation happens – it turns into the same kind of situation of outside looking in and forgetting that I myself might somehow be an insider of something someone else assumes they are excluded from. Boy, am I getting dizzy. What did someone once say, “Life is always Junior High”.
      I’ll shut up now.

  8. I agree with pretty much everything you said 😛 I love comments, be they A, B or C. I love the connections and the exchange. And I #luvcare 😛

  9. Great post, CAre. It’s not easy, and we all do our best. It’s so important to build community by commenting and replying. I think I agree with everything you said!

  10. I try to come back to see if you’ve replied but I admit to being a bad, bad blogger, this year. I can’t get myself worked up about writing reviews and it’s like . . . I can feel my butt spreading when I sit for too long, whether I’m writing on my own blog or reading other blogs. So, I’m just the Anti-Blogger, this year, but I don’t mean to be. I think I’m just feeling the sand running out of my little hourglass or something. I feel old.

    Ignore that first paragraph. I’m a B person — I’ve almost always got something to say.

    I got an interesting (very negative) comment that I actually rejected, this week. I’m thinking I might respond to it in a post but I haven’t felt like putting out the effort. I don’t get many, though. The overall vibe is incredibly positive in the blogging world. You have to appreciate that, don’t you?

    Loved this post!

  11. Lovely post! I especially like the whole energy connection thing – it is so true, it’s just the way life is, you know? So as far as I’m concerned, you can get as weird as you want because you’re talking my language 🙂

    The best part of blogging for me has been the comments, both ones people leave on my blog, my replies, and my return visits to their blogs. And I love love love when things get continued on email or on Twitter or Facebook and I get to know people even better!

    This comment is an A and a B – reading your post made me smile and feel good, and I absolutely had to respond!

    1. Isn’t it great? Comments are the grease, books are the fuel to book-blogging. Good grease… Blogging has evolved, don’t you think? what with Twitter and now/soon the convention! It’s fun.

    1. Well, I especially think if you participate in a group activity, the more involvement (ie commenting and visiting) it requires to get the most out of it. AND, it shouldn’t be an obligation but, more of an awareness of what it’s all about, keep it fun, keep it positive and make friends, etc. But sometimes we just can’t visit everyone – let it all just happen and enjoy.

  12. Tiddlypom! I’d forgotten all about that…

    And I prefer responses to my comments in the form of pie. 😀

    I’ve been bad lately about replying, but something had to give, and that was it. I can’t even make it to all the blogs I want to comment on.

    1. Tiddlypom is a great idea but has failed to catch on…. oh well! Now, I think of it as just one more ‘inside joke’, almost! eek.
      I know, I know – about the responsibility etc of having to visit EVERYONE is just crazy! that’s why I have to on some days not be too sensitive. We do what we can in our time allotted. Can’t be everywhere. I know I miss blogs I know I would enjoy… and sometimes I wonder if I had too many comments – what then?! I know I would not want to be a big ‘popular’ blog and would have to decide if my posts are enough, visits elsewhere would have to give. sigh… Don’t worry about it. “Don’t worry, be happy!”

    2. I was wondering how I might bring a pie to NYC… egads! Will maybe have to be sure and find a piece of pie to share with you at some cool restaurant?

  13. A — love this post! You’ve totally inspired me to go visit and comment on other book blogs 😀 Thanks for your visit as well!

      1. Ha, yes, I got your e-mail! Thanks for pointing this out — ugh, I had no idea about this problem. I think I’ve figured it out now, though?

  14. A and B both 🙂 !

    It really helps for comment participation when bloggers offer the option to subscribe to comments. That’s how I came back and commented again at the same post :-). I don’t subscribe to every single post that I comment on, though. I made that mistake once when entering a giveaway for a popular book, and my mailbox got clogged up, LOL.

    I try not to worry about how many comments my blog gets, because it isn’t as much as many other book bloggers out there! I’ve tried to think of why, but maybe I don’t have that many readers in the first place.

  15. OK, so I’m curious, who exactly are your blogging idols (I ask although know it’s probably un-PC to talk about it, right)? So no pressure to actually answer.

    We all have a handful of bloggers that we ALWAYS visit because their posts are so informative/well-written/spot on. I’m just amazed by how many good writers are in the book blogging world!!

  16. A- you rock!

    I love this post and it’s done in such a Care-like way that it makes me smile.

    I agree with you re: WordPress vs. the other blog platforms. Why do you need to jump thru hoops just to say “great review” or whatever? So silly.

    I haven’t jumped on the self hosted bandwagon only because I’m not technically adept and it scares me a little bit. WordPress is so simple.

    I’ve just got so many demands on my time right now that I find it more and more difficult to blog/read/comment. Seriously thinking of shutting down BOTB because it’s so neglected and I have such guilt over that.

    Anywho, I need some pie…

    1. NO! Don’t shut down! You need a place that is just YOU. cherish it and enjoy it on your own schedule and it’ll work out just fine. 🙂
      Pie! you and Softdrink….

  17. A – I definitely don’t comment as much as I should (or could, even). I just go through phases where I tell myself I’m too busy to comment, and phases when I make the time. This post is lovely, and I appreciate the sentiments. YAY! (even if I DO have a dreaded blogspot address…)

    1. LOL! yea, that dreaded blogspot won’t stop me (I’ll just complain. You do have it on one page easy and offer name/url? I’ll be by to check – do you want me to tell you if it’s not my favorite setup? not a biggie, I do have a blogger id so I CAN leave quick comments. but it means that others have to do 2 steps to get back to MY blog. 🙂

  18. First – weren’t we talking about this energy-thingamabob live and in person, just last week!?

    Second – well said, of course

    Third – I want in on that pie, too!

    Fourth – Do I admit that when I read tiddlypom I thought it was tiddlyP0RN?!?

    1. We WERE just talking abt the energy-thingamabob. Had to try it on you and see if it might work before I typed it up. HA!

      TiddlyPORN? oh my. (We’ll see it in a Fizzythought-song before the year is up…)

  19. A!

    I like what you said about the whole connecting thing. I’m very new and while traipsing around others’ blogs, I sometimes feel quickly drawn in and sometimes feel very confused or intimidated. (I might initially run away – but I do usually come back in the hopes that familiarity wears down the intimidation!)

    Anyway. A. 🙂

  20. candletea

    I’d be category A: I actually visited your blog after you left a comment on my Women Unbound post, but I’m always a bit shy when it comes to leaving comments. Couldn’t help but do it now though, since your post was about comments. I love comments as well, and I especially like to reply to them. It just makes me feel like you’re really starting a conversation with someone. I know, that must sound geeky.

    1. I gotcha! I remember the shyness – especially if a post already has a ton of comments. I remember at the beginning trying to be the first comment! not as intimidating or at least thinking I was being original. But then I realized that bloggers are so excited about ANY comment that the WHAT of the comment barely matters. 🙂
      Thank you for visiting AND commenting.

    1. and you, my dear Canadian friend who will be a best-selling author someday soon, have one of the best blog-world energy vibes I’ve ever come into online-contact with. ” oooo It’s ELECTRIC… ” (are you too young for that song?) 🙂

  21. B – I’m very bad about going back and checking for responses to my comments–following too many blogs, I guess. That’s on me. Thanks for making me laugh–again!

  22. I agree, of course with everything you said, but what especially resonates with me (besides Leave Comments) is missing the days of early discovery. I began my blog in 2006 with Blogger, and switching to WordPress last April made me feel that I’d moved neighborhoods literally. Ah, I digress, I just liked it when the book blogging world was cozier (not that there aren’t wonderful additions!). I’m sad I didn’t meet you sooner…see what a big world it is?

    1. Oh yes! I’ve used that analogy of a neighborhood! Very true. SO many book bloggers, so many books – just so unfair that I don’t have time (and I probably just need to be more organized? discerning? focused?)

  23. Look how long it takes some of us to catch up and come around! You posted this on Feb. 28. I have been so on and off with my blog and reading them…and find I miss it terrifically so am jumping back in feet first. (I’ve been trying to get a lot of writing done (not on the blog) and have avoided the TV, too, in my focus. I have NO idea what anyone is talking about around the proverbial “water cooler” – but it’s ok. And the last book I read? Just finished? A book about writing: PEN ON FIRE. More on that later. Glad to see you’re rocking the blog world! Happy Spring!

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